Marriage; a legal union of man and wife. In this day and age there are two different ideas of marriage. The first being a marriage based on love, and the second; a marriage arranged by a third party (usually the parents). Although an arranged marriage differs from a marriage based on love in the after marriage life and husband-wife relationship, the principal differences lie in mate selection and social implications.
The arranged marriage is a contract between families, but not between individuals. Before the talks of marriage between the parents occur, each side's parents investigate the others family background. They want to ascertain that the girl's family is of the same class, is of comparable financial situation, is of good reputation, and has no hereditary diseases. If the parents are satisfied, a family friend acts as a liaison between the families and reveals the interest of one family's child to the other. This go-between absorbs any criticism from the family, and also absorbs the praise, and gives the information back to the proposing family. Then the parents of both families begin to communicate and a meeting is set up for the prospective bride and groom to actually meet. This meeting is where the decisions are in effect made; a certain feeling of compatibility must be felt by both families in order for a marriage to proceed. In cultures where arranged marriages are commonplace, the role of the female is a subordinate to the male. An aspect of compatibility requires the willingness of the girl to conform to the man's family pattern of living. She is a stranger in the family's household and shall adopt the ideals, serve and conform to expectations. If the parents like each other and if the man and girl are attracted to one another or at least if the man likes the girl, the parents will finalize the dates for engagement and for marriage.
A love-based marriage is arranged by the individuals involved and only th...