The definition of sexual or intimate relationships throughout the
last 60 years has not changed, but the self imposed, and cultural
boundaries have undergone a revolution. Behavior which was once culturally
ostracized is now considered a healthy part of expressing one's own sexual
identity. Cultural boundaries regarding homosexual relationship, as well
as self - fulfilling sexual behavior are no longer pushed out of the modern
mind, or hidden in the closet. Our post modern world has moved
significantly away from defining personal completion as what a person gives
to another in a relationship toward defining self completion and
satisfaction as what a person receives from another. This shift takes the
power regarding our own fulfillment out of another's hands, and keeps the
ultimate responsibility for our own happiness in our own control.
Successful relationships can be formed through many different ways of
attraction including similarity of interest, differences that are
complementary, reciprocal attraction, competence, self-disclosure, and
proximity. Self-disclosure, intimacy, and respect are three of the most
important ingredients in developing and maintaining a meaningful
relationship. Self-disclosure is a deliberate and gradual process of
revealing significant information about one's self to another that would
not normally be known by others. The breadth of disclosure expands
continually and extends through all the areas of life as two people choose
to grow closer in an intimate relationship.
Meeks, Brenda S., Susan S. Hendrick, and Clyde Hendrick have come up
with a hypothesis that, "One's own self-disclosure and perceptions of the
partner's self-disclosure are both positively related to one's relational
satisfaction, with own disclosure more strongly related than partner
disclosure" (Meeks et al, 1998). As partners taking deliberate steps to
continually b...